Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
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"Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Extra-marital affairs become things of legend… and often the undoing of legends… and mere mortals."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Screaming and repeating lies makes them neither true nor more believable."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Most single people are sick of married people presenting themselves as both available and interested, when indeed they are merely “playing.” Oh, yeah… and cheating. Gee, that is attractive. Not! Others could not care less what someone’s marital status might be."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"We never want to be taken for granted, but our partners should be able to expect our honest loyalty. That is a powerfully strong foundation block for a relationship. I want to meet the greatest expectations, without being the greatest fraud."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"In truth, if it isn’t to save your life when it’s in imminent danger, someone yelling at you is just plain wrong. The same is true for ranting or bitching. The same goes double for anything even close to manhandling."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"If a man or a woman starts “expecting” sex, then it is no longer special, and a lover will likely start to feel used."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"When we make the decisions to be and stay in love, we should also make a decision and commitment to be supportive."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"If we are sharing challenges and concerns, laughter and life stories, dreams and dramas with someone other than our mate, we are making precious, intimate connections with someone other than our mate. We need to keep not only physical, but emotional and intellectual connections strong and active with our beloved."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"We would not want the joy of physical and sexual intimacy to fade after years together. We need to also remember to keep our intellectual and emotional intimacy every bit as sacred."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Should we “expect” our physical, sexual, intellectual, and emotional intimacies to automatically continue throughout a marriage? Nope. At least, not in my opinion. But I do think we should be able to expect both partners to protect and preserve the sanctity of these intimacies. That, to me, is part of honest loyalty."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Some people think that it’s okay to be downright nasty to people they love. It is not okay. Nasty is never called for, and it’s certainly not sweet, useful, nor positive."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Past misdeeds must only serve as a reference point in calm conversation about lessons learned or actions that taught us to behave better. They should never be bantered about with sarcasm, anger, or nastiness."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"It takes a strong woman to tolerate a weak man. That said, it takes a strong man to tolerate a weak woman, too."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"I think we need to develop a powerful dose of tolerance to understand each other’s humanness. None of us is perfect."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Without trust, our relationships lack an essential ingredient for emotional intimacy. We need to be able to totally trust our partner with our deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and secrets."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"It matters little which party has gotten lazy about delivering what their partner craves. It doesn’t take too many days or weeks for an unsatisfied partner to start to feel love-starved and sadly unfulfilled. If you want great sex in the bedroom, show love to each other outside the bedroom."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Sexy is a decision. We decide that our spouse looks sexy to us. Period. It doesn’t matter our age or how long we’ve been together."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"If someone yells at me, they are not expressing love. They may be threatening me. They may be expressing great frustration with me. They may simply be trying to control my behavior. However, they are not communicating love."
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
"When we resort to screaming at someone, we are revealing weakness and a sense of helplessness. If we can’t seem to get our message or feelings across any other way, then we get angry, and we get loud!"
Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts