Anthony de Mello

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"Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling."

Anthony de Mello

"The philosopher Diogenes was eating bread and lentils for supper. He was seen by the philosopher Aristippus, who lived comfortably by flattering the king. Said Aristippus, 'If you would learn to be subservient to the king you would not have to live on lentils.'Said [author:Diogenes|3213618, 'Learn to live on lentils and you will not have to be subservient to the king"."

Anthony de Mello

"Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance."

Anthony de Mello

"If what you seek is Truth, there is one thing you must have above all else.” “I know. An overwhelming passion for it.” “No. An unremitting readiness to admit you may be wrong."

Anthony de Mello

"Any time you are with anyone or think of anyone you must say to yourself: I am dying and this person too is dying, attempting the while to experience the truth of the words you are saying. If every one of you agrees to practice this, bitterness will die out, harmony will arise."

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"When you come to see you are not as wise today as you thought you were yesterday, you are wiser today."

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"Every word, every image used for God is a distortion more than a description."

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"The one who would be constant in happiness must frequently change."

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"Spirituality means waking up. Most people, even though they don't know it, are asleep. They're born asleep, they live asleep, they marry in their sleep, they breed children in their sleep, they die in their sleep without ever waking up. They never understand the loveliness and the beauty of this thing that we call human existence. You know — all mystics — Catholic, Christian, non-Christian, no matter what their theology, no matter what their religion — are unanimous on one thing: that all is well, all is well. Though everything is a mess, all is well. Strange paradox, to be sure. But, tragically, most people never get to see that all is well because they are asleep. They are having a nightmare."

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"The genius of a composer is found in the notes of his music; but analyzing the notes will not reveal his genius. The poet's greatness is contained in his words; yet the study of his words will not disclose his inspiration. God reveals himself in creation; but scrutinize creation as minutely as you wish, you will not find God, any more than you will find the soul through careful examination of your body."

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"This is what Wisdom means: To be changed without the slightest effort on your part, to be transformed, believe it or not, merely by waking to the reality that is not words, that lies beyond the reach of words. If you are fortunate enough to be Awakened thus, you will know why the finest language is the one that is not spoken, the finest action is the one that is not done and the finest change is the one that is not willed."

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"To a disciple who was forever complaining about others the Master said, "If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth.""

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"The sun and its light, the ocean and the wave, the singer and his song — not one. Not two."

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"When you are guilty, it is not your sins you hate but yourself."

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"Is there life before death? — that is the question!"

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"Whatever is truly alive must die. Look at the flowers; only plastic flowers never die."

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"The Master was exceedingly gracious to university dons who visited him, but he would never reply to their questions or be drawn into their theological speculations. To his disciples, who marveled at this, he said, "Can one talk about the ocean to a frog in a well or about the divine to people who are restricted by their concepts?""

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"People who want a cure, provided they can have it without pain, are like those who favour progress, provided they can have it without change."

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"When I speak, you must not listen to the words, my dear. Listen to the Silence."

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"Silence is not the absence of sound, but the absence of self."

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"The Master is not concerned with what we believe — only with what we see."

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"The Master would frequently assert that holiness was less a matter of what one did than of what one allowed to happen."

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"Thought can organize the world so well that you are no longer able to see it."

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"A thought is a screen, not a mirror; that is why you live in a thought envelope, untouched by Reality."

Anthony de Mello

"Any time you are with anyone or think of anyone you must say to yourself: I am dying and this person too is dying, attempting the while to experience the truth of the words you are saying. If every one of you agrees to practise this, bitterness will die out, harmony will arise."

Anthony de Mello